“You have to be tough to get old”

tough to get old
Photo by slc

Flora, my beautiful 92-year-old friend, spoke this truth during our recent visit.  Her husband of 36 years just passed away a few weeks before our visit, after a couple months of illness.  Reaching up to put some newly laundered sheets on a closet shelf, he had a heart attack and took his last breath.  Flora said her and her assisted living friends say, “You have to be tough to get old.”

It seems to me there is a lot of truth to their statement.  More illness, aches and pains, surgeries, death of loved ones, and just plain heartache, seem to be on the docket more than we’d like. 

So how do we get “tough” and live a life of hope and anticipation?  The only insight Flora and I have is to keep your focus on God.  He will help if we keep communication (prayer) open. He will “carry you,” “sustain you,” and “rescue you” if you ask him.

Here are some simple ideas to help you “be tough:”

  • Add prayer and reading the Bible to your daily routine
  • Share regular deep conversations with a trusting friend
  • Be in nature as much as possible
  • Listen to uplifting music of your choice loudly and sing along
  • Have a monthly massage
  • Stretch daily
  • Stay as active as possible, even if it hurts sometimes
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help

How do you stay tough?

How Not to Die – the book

I just had to purchase the New York Times bestseller How Not to Die, Discover the Foods Scientifically Proven to Prevent and Reverse Disease by Dr. Michael Greger. After all, it has 20,698 reviews on Amazon. I also ordered the companion cookbook. My dad died of cancer and my mom is currently in hospice with breast cancer. I wanted to learn how I could eat healthier to help ward off cancer and aging.

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Greger’s book is 404 pages long with an additional 158 pages of an appendix, notes and an index. I haven’t read it cover to cover. I use it as resource. For instance, I looked up colon cancer and breast cancer. Chapter 4 is titled, “How Not to Die from Digestive Cancers.” On page 63, I read, “While regular screenings are certainly sensible to detect colorectal cancer, preventing it in the first place is even better.” From my reading, I learned that by adding a small amount of turmeric to my diet it may “decrease the number and size of polyps by more than half in patients with a hereditary form of colorectal cancer.” During my first colonoscopy in my late 40’s, I had two polyps removed. The information in the book on turmeric was therefore pretty valuable to me.

Chapter 11 is dedicated to “How Not to Die from Breast Cancer.” On page 180, I read a quote from the American Institute for Cancer Research, “Diets that revolve around whole plant foods–vegetables, whole grains, fruits and beans–cut the risk of many cancers, and other diseases as well.”

After reading this book, I have added turmeric, flaxseed, chia seeds, almonds and walnuts, dates, almond butter, cinnamon, coconut milk, and nutritional yeast to my diet. I also take a magnesium supplement, a probiotic with a prebiotic fiber blend, and orange flavored fresh catch fish oil daily.

date brownies
Slab of fudgy no-bake brownies, Photo by slc

My favorite recipe from the cookbook so far is the one for fudgy no-bake brownies. I have a sweet tooth and these are so easy to make. Just 1 cup of walnuts, 1-1/3 cups pitted dates, 1/2 cup almond butter, and 1/2 cup unsweetened cocoa powder. Must mix the walnuts and dates in a blender, then add the almond butter and cocoa powder.

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Blending date brownies, Photo by slc

If you want, you can add 1/2 cup of crushed pecans for a topping. Put the mixture on parchment paper and pop in the frig for at least one hour. They honestly taste like real brownies.

I have also made the skillet sweet potato hash and the yellow rice and black beans with broccoli. Some of the ingredients for the recipes are new to me and it has been fun discovering the new flavors. Bon-appetite!

Ever use a massage gun?

If you’re like me, you suffer from a few aches and pains, especially as we get older. Going to my massage therapist or chiropractor was great before I retired as I could afford the much needed therapy. But with a limited retirement income, those regular therapeutic visits have become financially challenging. I saw a television commercial advertising a massage gun. However, I did not purchase one until I tried one out on my shoulder at a friends’ office. The owner of the massager recommended it and I was sold.

I purchased the Sonic Deep Tissue, Percussion Muscle Massage Gun from Amazon last July. It came in a sturdy case along with eight massage heads. With several different levels of intensity, you are sure to find relief from strained or stiff muscles as I have. It keeps me virtually pain free in between my periodic massage therapy visits.

This massager currently sells for $119.99 on Amazon.com and I do not make any money off of your purchase. Enjoy!

Who will be your caregiver if and when you need one?

Baby Boomer Caregiver
AP Photo/Annie Rice

This is a question I think about from time to time.  I have one married daughter.  Her mother-in-law (mom of three) and I are both divorced, so we will be aging alone in our homes.  Our siblings do not live in our state.  Health care and financial support are already issues for both of us.  When I read the following article I couldn’t help but think of those of us who are solo seniors…

As Baby Boomers Move Into Old Age, Who Will Care For Us?

by Jody Gastfriend, Forbes.com

August 10, 2018

“My high school buddies and I recently got together and reminisced about old times. “Can you believe we’re 60?” we howled. “That used to seem really old!” Many of us are still caring for parents who have crossed the 90-year-old threshold. As we joked about our aging bodies—the creaky knees and achy joints—we mused about another topic too. Who will care for us as we grow old? Will our adult children with their busy lives assume the role of caregiver? And will the childless among us rely on nieces, nephews, friends or neighbors to step in?

When it comes to the growing demand for caregiving, the numbers just don’t add up. The United States, like many industrialized countries, is looking down the barrel of a looming care gap. As my fellow Baby Boomers move headlong into old age — we are now retiring at a rate of about 10,000 per day — there may not be enough caregivers to go around. The potential pool of family caregivers, whose stories I tell in my book, My Parent’s Keeper, will not sustain the growing demand for care. An estimated 117 million Americans will need assistance of some kind by 2020, yet the number of unpaid caregivers is expected to reach only 45 million. The caregiver support ratio, the number of potential family caregivers relative to the number of older Americans, is projected to decline sharply by mid-century.

Where have all the caregivers gone?”   Read more

Are you aging gracefully?

aging gracefully80 is the new 60

by Jose Pujalte Jr. for Manila Bulletin

April 30, 2017

“’To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am.’

— Bernard Baruch (1870-1965), U.S. Financier Quoted in The Observer (London, Aug 19, 1955) on his 85th birthday

Before any brickbats are hurled my way, let me qualify.

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2016 Aging Stats Report

Older Americans 2016: Key Indicators of Well-Being

2016 Aging Stats Report

“This report provides the latest data on the 41 key indicators selected by the Forum (on Aging Related Statistics) to portray aspects of the lives of older Americans and their families. It is divided into six subject areas: population, economics, health status, health risks and behaviors, health care, and environment.”

Download the Full 2016 Aging Stats Report (PDF)

Highlights from the 2016 Aging Stats Report can be found on page 19.

Download Individual Sections Format
Population XLS
Economics XLS
Environment XLS
Health Status XLS
Health Risks & Behaviors XLS
Health Care XLS
Special Feature: Informal Caregiving XLS
Figures PPTX

2017 “Best Cities for Successful Aging”

2017 Best Cities for Successful AgingThe Milken Institute Releases 2017 “Best Cities for Successful Aging” Rankings

Provo-Orem, UT and Iowa City, IA Take Top Spots Among Large and Small Metros

March 14, 2017

“The Milken Institute today released the third edition of its “Best Cities for Successful Aging” report and index, a collaboration between the Institute’s Center for the Future of Aging and its Research Department. The report evaluates 381 U.S. metropolitan areas to determine how well they serve the needs of the nation’s growing population of mature adults, enabling them to age productively, securely, and in optimal health.”

The top 10 large and small metropolitan areas for 2017 are:

Rankings – Large Metros   

Rankings – Small Metros

1

Provo-Orem, UT

1

Iowa City, IA

2

Madison, WI

2

Manhattan, KS

3

Durham-Chapel Hill, NC

3

Ames, IA

4

Salt Lake City, UT

4

Columbia, MO

5

Des Moines-West Des Moines, IA

5

Sioux Falls, SD

6

Austin-Round Rock, TX

6

Ann Arbor, MI

7

Omaha-Council Bluffs, NE-IA

7

Ithaca, NY

8

Jackson, MS

8

Lawrence, KS

9

Boston-Cambridge-Newton, MA-NH

9

Logan, UT-ID

10

San Francisco-Oakland-Hayward, CA

10

Fairbanks, AK

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